Forgiveness is one of the toughest experiences we avoid doing. It makes “us” accountable and not the other person. Its the “why” and how come we have to do it! Why not them? They did the injury, they did it to me! Although defiance can be a tremendous skill in its own right (especially for moving out of bad situations, starting new paths) it does not assist in the HEALING we sorely need and desire.
Forgiveness is about Loving YOU, YOURSELF, in the ways only YOU get and understand. It releases “them” from you. You’re FINALLY releasing THEIR weight from YOU! As long as you harbor the pain they caused you (whether they are aware of it or not) YOU are ALLOWING them to Control YOU! UCK!
Time to be freed! Released from pain, so you can live your life in Joy, Happiness, and in Love!
Now having said all this if you want to write down all of their “sins” etc and burn and release, that’s fine. If you want to write a letter and burn it or send it that’s fine.
But, I offer another way..to bring in Peace, Healing, and Release.
You can repeat this exercise at any time. Each time it is done will bring more empowerment and open up your Heart to Love and Heal the Mind, Soul and Body.